Own Your Success


What does it mean to you? How do you define success? What does it take to be successful? How do you own it?


Most people define their success based on what others are doing and achieving.

How dangerous do you think that is? To measure yourself against others and what they have accomplished?

We look for the people that are our heroes and try to compare ourselves against them.

When we look to people like Jeff Bezos, Elon Musk, Picasso, Oprah Winfrey, Mozart, Steve Jobs, Warren Buffett, Martin Luther King Jr. and the like for inspiration, that’s excellent! But when we compare our accomplishments and our success against theirs – we fail ourselves.

We allow others to define success for us and we allow others to dictate the way we live in order to achieve success in life. What if there was another way? What if you could define your life, your achievements, and your own success?


The biggest issue here is that we are measuring ourselves against wrong units. Sure we should all have high aspirations but we should only compare ourselves against a unit of measure that’s fitting for the context.

Would you compare the weight of a glass of water against the size of an apple to determine anything of value? Of course not, you might be able, though, to measure the weight of a glass of water against the weight of a glass of apple juice to determine how much of the apple juice is water content.

The value in the measurement here is the weight of purified water measured against the liquid contents of the apple. The apple juice is going to be essentially purified water with added minerals, fiber, and other nutrients that come naturally from an apple. Essentially, we’re measuring purified water against itself with some additions – the apple juice contents in this case. In the same way, the best method of measuring ourselves, our achievements, and success is against our previous selves.

The correct context and unit of measure here is the difference between where we have been and where we are now or where we are and where we will be. Not against someone else and their achievements.


Defining success for yourself is going to be one of the most difficult things you will do. The issue is that you have too much information. You are surrounded by how publications define success. You are flooded with news about the accomplishments of the world’s most powerful and influential people. How are you supposed to ignore that data and perceive yourself internally to reflect on what you find as truly successful for yourself?

Spending time defining your success against the success of others will lead to disappointment in the end because you have your own unique thoughts, processes, desires, and needs. Once you mirror or repeat the success that others have, you will have missed fulfilling your own needs on the way. Frankly, it’s depressing.

So how can you cut through the murky waters of self-reflection? How can you reach success without being caught in depression? The answer is not clear for everyone and it’s not the same for everyone neither. What do you do to understand yourself? How do you define answers like this for yourself while being surrounded by too much information? Comment below – it might help someone else.

For me, I use talking and writing to get thoughts out of my mind. It’s helpful for me to blab about stuff to get it all out. For some reason, writing it out helps me the most. I can write without cause. I can freely write about stuff that doesn’t make sense to anyone but me. I can explain it to myself and clear up the clutter. Once I’m feeling clutter free, I feel like I can examine my own thoughts and deal with my own highly-personal definitions for concepts in life, such as how I define success.

Most of the time, when I define success it comes in the form of my 30-day, seven-day, and next-day goals. I write these out at the end of each of these periods. I use these sets of goals to determine if I’m on track for achieving success for myself or not. I can only track myself against myself here. I set the bar for myself and I either make it happen or I don’t and fail. Cut and dry – just like that. Simple.


So again, how are you defining success for yourself? What’s your measuring device?

Whatever you do to define and own your success, ensure that you’re cutting through the clutter first. Dull out the noise to find your internal signal for success. There are too many trumpets out there shouting of the accomplishments of others. Take time and learn how to quiet the orchestra so you can know yourself.

Take the time to focus.

Now, shhh – own your success.

No regrets.


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Tyler Lindell

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